#27: Emotional Intelligence
In this training, I’m gonna talk about self mastery and how to grow that emotional intelligence that is silently locked away urging to get out.
Were going to learn how to control your emotions so they don’t control you. Dynamic people have control, and it begins with their emotional intelligence which far outweighs your IQ.
Listen, if you’re serious about improving your health, living pain-free or you just don’t want to be sick anymore, here’s how to find out if I can help you. Call us at 219-769-5433, mention this show and we can begin together to find out today!
- What is self mastery
- How a brand new perspective in ‘healthology’ can save healthcare and save lives
- How to master your self defeating prophecies grand master style
I am really excited to start you on this journey and I hope to add a lot of value to your life as a whole.
Nutrition is remarkable in its ability to have people with completely opposite views saying they have science to support completely opposite views.
Frustrating isn’t it? What are we suppose to believe?
Welcome to Dynamism Biohack, my name is Dr. Matt Hammett Wellness & Nutrition Expert, Lifestyle Trainer and Movement Enthusiast. In each week I’m going share with you how to make the right nutritious choices despite conflicting expert opinions where I help you to discover how to unlock your inner aborigine or your inner greatness. Thankyou for spending this time with me today, so let’s get into the training.
SELF-MASTERY IS A SENSE TO WITHSTAND the emotional storms of life in the moments. People with a directive conscious choice do not become enslaved by their passions; they do not bend the will. The virtue of self-mastery has been praised since the time of Plato. Greek scholar Page DuBois translates self-mastery with the ancient Greek word: sophrosyne [suh-fros-uh-nee]. It means “the care an intelligence in conducting one’s life; a tempered balance and wisdom.”
The Romans and the early Christian church redefined it as temperance. Temperance became a virtue that called for the restraining of emotional excess. However, the goal is to keep your emotions in check, not to suppress them entirely. The key here to understand is all about balance; every feeling has its value and significance. Besides, a life without passion would cut us off from the very purpose of creation. We would feel isolated and cut off from the fullness and meaning of life.
In this training, I’m gonna talk about self mastery and how to grow that emotional intelligence that is silently locked away urging to get out. Were going to learn how to control your emotions so they don’t control you. Dynamic people have control, and it begins with their emotional intelligence which far outweighs your IQ.
And that leads me to dynamism Biohack: Emotional Intellignece.
Aristotle observed that we need appropriate emotion feeling proportionate to circumstance. Psychologists would agree that when we silence our emotions and inner feelings, they make us distant and dull. When they become out of control, they become too extreme and persistent; they become pathological. This emotional persistence can lead us to depression, anxiety, raging anger, and manic agitation. In the words of Aristotle himself, “For both excessive and insufficient exercise destroy one’s strength, and both eating and drinking too much or too little destroy health, whereas the right quantity produces, increases or preserves it. So it is the same with temperance, courage, and the other virtues… This much then is clear: in all our conduct it is the mean that is to be commended.”
These words leave people with a directive conscious choice liberated because it is all about balance. Be kind to yourself while you improve your Dynamic health; do not be so hard on yourself. After all, sometimes we just have to “make the better bad choice” in life. Besides, self-mastery takes more than ten thousand hours…
TEN THOUSAND HOURS
In the training Outliers, Malcolm Gladwell repeatedly mentions the “10,000-Hour Rule,” claiming “that the key to achieving world class expertise in any skill is, to a large extent, a matter of practicing the correct way, for a total of around 10,000 hours.”
I first read this training after my family tragedy. The idea made me rethink who I was, and what I was capable of becoming. It inspired me beyond anything else that I had ever read. It empowered me to become the writer, the physician, and the speaker I am today. If it were not for the wisdom of the 10,000-hour rule, I never would have embarked on the idea that I could ever amount to anything more than the sum of my past struggles. I realized something golden from Gladwell; I had spent well over 10,000 hours on the art and technique for chiropractic care, but not quite in the sciences. I realized a dream from this training; if I invested 10,000 hours into reading the science, perhaps I could become an expert in the science and art of natural healing.
This quest for self-discovery came out of despair after witnessing such preventable death in my family. I discovered that with the help of studying and applying the knowledge with my patients as a Doctor of Chiropractic, I was sitting on a new frontier, which had the potential to redefine and restructure science toward the attainment of human health.
In this new model, we may continue the discovery and pursuit of sickness/crisis intervention, but also to expand a new vision, a new frontier in human health development. By defining the term healthology, along with the promoters and activators of human health, we can have a valid lifestyle treatment plan that engages persons with a directive conscious choice on the attainment of true health and true wellbeing.
Likewise, we currently have an understanding of the promoters and activators for a disease like cancer, heart disease, diabetes and others. However, our knowledge of these natural biomolecules regarding health promotion and health activation has not been thoroughly studied.
A training like this could serve two purposes on the goals of attaining a true wellness culture. One purpose is to teach the public that the human driving force toward the attainment of healing and health and wellbeing lies in the promoters of health; not in understanding of pathology or sickness and disease.
This is a brand new perspective, one that I believe many scientists and new medical students will spark energetically, with zest and passion for uncovering in the next millennium.
At this point, I reflect what I wrote about at the beginning of this training, when I commented on giving away a “billion dollar idea” toward objectifying subjectivity with a pain biosensor that may detect broken bones or soft tissue injuries, without the use of advanced imaging.
I ensure you; I did not lose anything. Indeed, I have gained everything because the pursuant of that dream led me to realize a bigger vision. To advance the pursuant of humanity toward health promoters and health activators which will one day develop into smartphone technologies or biosensors which measure our human health performance beyond heart rate or counting your steps!
There is a brand new future and revolution in human health promotion, ecosystem restoration, and healing the planet that has been damaged over the last century.
At the time of this writing, we already have smartphones that identify the nutritional content of fresh foods you can buy at the grocery store. We have smartphones that have the ability to look deep into your eyes and replace the most sophisticated optometry equipment. We have the technology to study humanity on a chip with the computational power to examine biology in ways never imagined.
Imagine the ability to identify how your biology measures against the science discovered from our ancestors, who have 4 to 10 times the vitamin and mineral content that we have, without ever being vaccinated or taking a single Big Pharma product!
If you recall from the Move driver, our hunter-gatherer ancestors still living have physique and health equivalent to a professional athlete. Imagine a smartphone with the power to measure true human performance and true human health promotion beyond restoration and disease treatment! Imagine the future of health promotion, due to the future of smart technologies!
I want to inspire the youth of our age, who come into contact with these ideas I have laid out in this training. Our health care system will be fantastic when more students invest their 10,000 hours not just in the pursuant of sickness/disease and crisis management, but on the attainment of true wellness science, absorbed with the new science and the new biology of human health promotion and performance. I salute the next generation of health care students on the attainment of discovery in both areas of health care.
I predict the need for brand new fields in health care, so as to meet the scientific need for development in the new wellness areas toward human health promotion.
A chess master becomes a master after he has beaten a room of 25 chess experts- at one time. A chess grandmaster becomes a grandmaster after he has beaten a room or 25 chess masters- at one time.
A group of researchers wanted to understand what the difference was that made them so superior. They found both groups were excellent and equally brilliant. It was the grandmaster’s passion that made the difference. They loved the game of chess so much that they lived, breathed and became the game of chess. It was that passion that created them into a level of excellence that was far superior to any other players in the world. Can you make that kind of commitment to your personal development in each of the five areas of a Dynamic Health? Do you have the Grandmaster Aptitude?
A Grandmaster Aptitude uses his emotional intelligence to fill the capacity that profoundly affects all other abilities. Our limits of our capacity are defined by our innate mental abilities to think and plan, to pursue training for a distant goal, to problem solve and to determine how well we do in life. Our emotional intelligence is influenced by the degree to which we are motivated by our feeling, enthusiasm, and pleasures in what we do. Even a bit of anxiety may propel us forward to accomplishment. For these reasons, Goleman tells us that our emotional intelligence is a far better predictor of success in life than IQ. He writes, “If you’ve got a superior high IQ and super low control of your emotions, you simply will not manifest your highest potential.”2 You have got to live with passion.
THE MARSHMALLOW TEST
The Stanford marshmallow experiment was a series of studies on impulse control spearheaded by psychologist Walter Mischel, then a professor at Stanford University. In these studies, a four-year-old child was offered a choice between one small reward provided for immediate gratification, or two small rewards if they waited for a short period. In follow-up studies, “the researchers found that children who were able to wait longer for the preferred rewards tended to have better life outcomes, as measured by SAT scores, educational attainment, body mass index (BMI), and other life measures.” Goleman teaches that “there is perhaps no psychological skill more fundamental than resisting impulse.”
People with conscious choice understand that we have a need to be able to regulate our impulses if we are going to perform well at anything which requires sustained attention. Our focus is real while we measure how well we use our five pillars of a dynamic health, studying for a test, building a business, or cultivating our relationships. There is no need to get all depressed if you know you would not have passed the marshmallow test; you can learn to develop emotional intelligence as an adult, to compensate for our losses as a child.
SELF-DEFEAT AND SELF-FULFILLING PROPHECIES
Wow. Where to put this section of the training? I could have placed this section anywhere in the training! The truth is, we all worry; sometimes, it trips us up! However, the number of worries that people report while taking a test directly predicts how poorly they will do? Therefore, keep this process simple, try not to worry.
When we worry, those resources in our brains are spending our brain power and taking away from the resources available to us for processing other useful information. When we are preoccupied on worrying about failing a test, it takes our mind away from figuring out the answers. Our worries become self-defeat and self-fulfilling prophecies, forcing us down the slope of disaster we predict. We have to man up and reduce our worry loads because they are toxic to us; focus the energies to the challenge at hand. Sound simple? Of course, it does; we just did it together. Just keep in mind that worrying is only useful to us if it concerns a topic we can do something about. It leads us to take a positive action right now. Recall the meditative process in the Think driver to help diffuse your worry and focus on changing the things you can.